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Are you spending more time with your smartphone than with your partner -- even during romantic dates? ‘ 50 percent of the time I am with Omar, I'm either playing games on my Ipad or chatting away with my friends on blackberry and other social networking sites. Lately we haven't had a real discussion. I don't find him boring, far from it but I can't but touch my phone. I think its a disorder. I think it’s beginning to affect us. It got so bad that one night after we had sex, I picked my phone and started to play games. He thought I was chatting with my friends but when he saw what I was doing, he got very displeased ’ said Jamila. Sound familiar?  In the last 15 years the mobile phone has conquered the world.  I could make a list of 50 ways these phones have improved our lives.   But if you’re like me and can remember what life was like before we all got mobile phones, you may wonder if all the changes are really for the good.  Remember lov...

I got a lot of  feedback  concerning my previous post on standards ; one very interesting question in one of the mails asked how long a relationship should last before it tolls the marriage road. This question is not alien to many of us especially those in committed, marriage-bound relationships. It has been asked over and over again and I’m not sure if it will stop coming up in several discussions every now and then; this is because people are starting relationships per second while some are still growing. It’s quite surprising that this thought pattern is often times linked to the ladies, especially when they hit their late twenties or early thirties. It becomes a topic among single sisters when they get to attend weddings almost every Saturday or have to congratulate a friend who just got engaged.  Dele said “I wonder why my girlfriend expects me propose to her now because all her friends are getting married or getting engaged already.I think its when...

I was having one of my chitchat moments with a close friend and the topic 'Standards' was raised. It was then I realized that many dating couples have too high standards they expect of each other thus many single people or broken marriages. Everyone has standards,they keeps us motivated to do our best, but often times these standards cause undue stress. Some often impose their standards on their loved ones; this is a new source of stress and frustration for partners who feel they cannot meet these expectations. I'm not saying standards are not good or unhealthy in relationship, I only think it shouldn't determine how much or how far the relationship should go. It also shouldn't be a criterium to determine if the relationship will lead to marriage but then again who is to blame? The partner with unattainable standards or the one who isn't truthful to him or herself and believes these standards can be reached.