TARA TALK TALK

Its painful to hear of how beautiful weddings come to an end because of someone’s carelessness or insensitivity.   Just this morning, the news making rounds all over twitter is of a certain Nigerian Celebrity whose marriage is being threatened because her husband got his ex-girlfriend pregnant.   I got to church, sat close to a friend and while we got talking. She told me told how the current divorce rate has really affected her decision to settle down. According to her, men are beginning to take a piss and she can't imagine making her parents go through the expenses that comes with planning a wedding ceremony. She added that planning a wedding these days don't come cheap, from the proposal night where the man is supposed to get the best engagement ring, propose in a posh restaurant or location and probably getting nice pictures to be posted on bellanaija, weddingdigestnaija or africanwedding site.

This might shock a lot of my readers, but I'm going to anyways. So I've lived on this face of the earth for twenty something years and I know quite a lot of things some of my peers don't. I hear that a girl should not date more than 5 men in her lifetime before she settles. This brings me to the question "is there no difference between dating and a relationship?" If you have an answer, please feel free to share with me. Me thinks there's a difference, going on dates means you're not officially exclusive to one person. You can see other people but in a relationship, it demands your loyalty. You can disagree if you please. May I add that it's OK to go on a couple of dates with prospective partners till you are sure you are ready to go the long walk with just one of them.  I don't subscribe to cheating although it's almost inevitable that one of the couple might fall victim. Never lose yourself while you are in relationship. It shou...