It’s a bit rare to find a girl writing about what the everyday man
experiences but truthfully I have more male friends than girls (I wonder why
though) but I feel comfortable in their midst.
Recently I got to find out
that snatching a friend’s partner is as common among the males as it is among
females. It usually comes in this trend.
You have a friend and one fine day, he meets the girl of his dreams and
falls in love. A few weeks later, he introduces you to her. You’re happy for
him but you’re totally falling in love with his girlfriend.
Ever been there? …
Almost all guys have…
On one hand, you’re happy for your friend. He
did find a great catch and they just feel perfect for each other. But yet again,
you’re jealous. His girlfriend is the sexiest thing you’ve ever seen and you
can’t stop fantasizing about her, or wishing she could be with you instead of
your friend. When you’re a guy, it’s easy to instantly get attracted to a girl
you meet, even if she’s your PADI’s babe. While girls take a while to build the
whole bonding thing, guys just don’t care. You like a girl, and you want her.
You probably knew the girl before your friend met her or your friend met her
through you but you never asked her out.
Now she’s with your ‘PADI’, she becomes even more attractive and you are
beginning to see her in a different light or perhaps, you’ve never met her but
everything about her is just perfect, perfect for you. You start to play the role
of bestie to PADI just to get close enough to the girl. You often times tell
her how much you like her especially on those days she runs to you or reports
your PADI to you. Gradually she confides in you. You advise her and teach her
some few ‘favorable’ tricks depending on who gets favored. All these just to
get the girl where you want her.
Two things come to play here. She either begins to like you and/or starts
seeing everything wrong in her boyfriend, your PADI. She gets entangled in a
love web and might likely pick you over your PADI. You win the girl but lose
your friend depending how close you are to the friend and the kind of
relationship he has with the girl ….or…..She settles whatever made her and your
PADI drift and then tells him all you told her. You lose the girl and possibly your
PADI.
Do I have a witness?
Finally, I know I’m being a bit bias but when you like a friend’s new
girlfriend or even an old one, you’re definitely on unstable ground. It’s like
seeing fire and wanting to play with it, you’d get hurt eventually. This is not to say there’s no solution, like
we say in my beautiful country Nigeria and most spoken language which is Yoruba
*if you didn’t know* oyinbo toh shey pencil lo shey eraser which means nothing
is beyond repair. There are just two things you can do:
·
Steal the girl.
·
Admire her from afar and eventually forget about
her.
Do you like a friend’s girlfriend? Of
course you do. But now that you know the odds and the ways, do something about
it. But always remember to think with a clear head. And never jump to
conclusions.
My two kobo though, option 2 is the safest. Till next
time remember to Love, Live and Learn……….
Peace
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